Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone
Anyone who knows me, knows I love inspirational quotes. It’s possible that my dog has a larger attention span than I, and as such there’s something about these bite sized bits of wisdom that I am better able to assimilate. In the same manner that Twitter forces one to be more concise and get to the point in fewer words, these quote achieve something similar.
So, I’ve decided to share just a few today that I particularly like or find moving or inspiring. In my post 6 Ways to be a Better Dad I shared some of my thoughts on how one can improve as a parent. This next quote reflects my feeling that becoming a father has been the single most significant event in my life, making me want to, need to be a better man. How has becoming a parent affected you?
The guys who fear becoming fathers don’t understand that fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects the man. The end product of child raising is not the child but the parent. ~Frank Pittman
There’s nothing like that moment after a baby is born when they send you home from the hospital and it sinks in that YOU are responsible for this tiny helpless little being. Do you remember that feeling? It sure gave me pause. My wife and I attended classes at the hospital and bought numerous books about caring for a baby beforehand, but as this next quote implies, when you take that little bundle home with you… you are really truly on your own.
In spite of the six thousand manuals on child raising in the bookstores, child raising is still a dark continent and no one really knows anything. You just need a lot of love and luck – and, of course, courage. ~Bill Cosby
In another of my blogs on the subject of being a dad, I wrote that it was important to have fun with your kids and let them see you have fun with your spouse. This next quote tugs at my heart string more than just a little, because I realize it’s not fully correct. As a parent there is a window of time where we are our child’s favorite toy… and God help those who realize too late their misplaced priorities caused them to miss it.
You will always be your child’s favorite toy. ~Vicki Lansky
And while I’m tearing up (yes, real men cry… well dads do at least) when I read the next quote I found it to be a very apt metaphor. We need to balance our desire to protect and cling to our children with their need for freedom and confidence in themselves. I’ll tell you what, though… I’m sticking damn close in case she needs to grab on to me for support, and I’m not talking about bicycles.
The hardest part of raising a child is teaching them to ride bicycles. A shaky child on a bicycle for the first time needs both support and freedom. The realization that this is what the child will always need can hit hard. ~Sloan Wilson
If you haven’t read the posts I linked to earlier in this one, please do. They are some I’m most proud of. As I said in the first, I’m far from a perfect dad. I write posts like this to remind myself of what I need to focus on to become just a bit better. And as I said in the second, let’s not forget to have fun during the process. On that note, let me leave you with just one more important quote.
Never raise your hand to your kids. It leaves your groin unprotected. ~Red Buttons
Do YOU have a favorite quote?