One Dad’s thoughts about the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut, this morning that left 28 people dead; 20 of them young children like our daughter:
No, I’m not going to talk about gun control or politics… and I most definitely am NOT going to talk about the person who committed this heinous, senseless act. Actually it is the news coverage of that last part, the murderer, that bothers me the most.
It seems for weeks after these senseless tragedies, all we see on the TV is a photo of the murderer. Watch and see if I’m wrong. The press will find the most evocative photo they can, and everywhere we look we’ll see his empty, insane eyes.
After the Arizona shooting, I wrote that the media should instead focus on the heroes… on their faces. There were several heroes at the Arizona shooting; one of them was a man, a hero named Dory Stoddard, who’s face you won’t remember, but should.
In Newton at Sandy Hook Elementary more happened today than just a shooting. Example: in one classroom, upon hearing the shots, a teacher locked her classroom door and huddled the kids in the corner. And you can bet that she shielded their little bodies with hers.
So when the media or people you know try to draw you into arguments about gun control or politics… or talk about the insane darkness that was in this one person… please turn it off, tune them out and turn away. Instead, look for the heroes. They are always there.
Heroes are all around us, all the time. Mostly we don’t see them that way, nor do they see it in themselves. But it’s times like this that bring them out when we need them most. So please, let’s shine a light on THEM this holiday season, and don’t feed the darkness.
It’s our choice what we focus on and how we think about things. Sure, I’m crying while I write this post. Who could imagine such horrors and not cry? But I’m also actively looking for the light in it. I’m looking for the heroes, the friends and the strangers helping.
[important]Sunday Update: A friend sent me this.Feel free share with your parent friends. I found it really helpful: “Restoring a Sense of Safety in the Aftermath of a Mass Shooting: Tips for Parents“[/important]
[warning]Tuesday Update: I’m no expert, but I believe watching too much of the news coverage will hurt us in ways we don’t realize. Consider setting a daily limit (1hr max?). And none for kids![/warning]
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