I sure could use your advice…
Sometimes I worry the false ideal of beauty presented in advertising, TV and film may harm our daughter in some way. How do you counter the tremendously unrealistic messages they send?
In my gut, I feel the things that I say to her each day are laying a foundation, good or bad, for her future self-esteem. Before other influences become stronger, what should I do and not do?
As a new dad, I want to do the right thing
Is telling her she’s beautiful the wrong thing to do, because it sets up an inappropriate focus on the value of something over which she has little control? Should I focus on accomplishments instead?
Below is a photo of several Victoria’s Secret models before and after makeup and retouching. Clearly they were already beautiful beforehand, but the degree of difference is a bit shocking.
Obviously concern about media’s portrayal of beauty’s ideal is nothing new. In fact that’s why I’m writing this post. Many of you have traversed this path with your kids before me.
I need your help before it’s too late
My little girl is not quite 4 years old, so her exposure has been pretty limited so far. We monitor her TV viewing closely, and she does not watch channels that run commercials spots.
Clearly to me, she’s the most beautiful child on the planet, but I know at some point the positive messages I send will be come less important than those she receives from peers and TV?
What do you advise I do or not do?
[important]If you liked this post, please see my newest post on this subject: Healthy Body Image – Seventeen Magazine versus Teen Vogue[/important]